Which Cheek Do The French Kiss You On First?

Map created by Armand Colin based on this mapThe map above shows which cheek the French kiss you on first. In most of northern France its on the right and in the south its on the left, although like everything in France there are exceptions to both rules.

The custom of cheek-kissing in France, known as la bise, is deeply rooted in tradition, and the variation in which cheek people start with—right or left—can depend on regional customs, historical influences, and local preferences.

Here are some factors that contribute to these differences:

1. Regional Traditions

• Different regions of France have their own cultural habits, and la bise is no exception. For example:
  • In the south of France, it is more common to start with the left cheek.
  • In the north of France, people often start with the right cheek. These customs have developed over centuries and are passed down within communities.

2. Historical and Cultural Influences

• Traditions surrounding la bise can be influenced by historical factors such as local aristocratic customs or neighboring cultural practices. For instance, regions bordering other countries may have adopted or modified their cheek-kissing styles based on cross-cultural exchanges.

3. Urban vs. Rural Differences

• In urban areas where people from various regions mix, cheek-kissing customs might vary widely. In rural areas, traditions tend to be more consistent and reflective of the local heritage.

4. Personal and Family Habits

• Even within the same region, families or individuals might adopt different habits. This means that some people may start on the right cheek even if most others in their region start on the left.

5. Practicality and Social Norms

• Starting on one cheek versus the other can also be influenced by what feels most natural or comfortable based on group dynamics. When people meet, they often unconsciously mirror each other’s gestures.

Navigating the Difference

If you’re unsure which cheek to start with, a good approach is to:

1. Observe the other person’s movement and mirror it.
2. Be aware that some French people may find it charming if you ask or fumble, they’ll often guide you with a smile.

Cheek-kissing customs in France are part of the charm of its cultural diversity, and navigating them is part of the experience of engaging with French social life.

A map alternative map that includes both Belgium and Switzerland from Geo Universe:

Also see: Cheek-Kissing As A Form Of Greeting Including The Number Of Kisses Given